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Q:
How can I talk to my family, so that they will listen—really listen—to my Vancouver bus accident concerns?

A:

It's sad: your Vancouver bus accident has left you isolated from the people who want to help you most.

Well-intentioned doctors, friends, and family members might offer words of support, help you deal with your life’s logistics, and give you love and nutrients. However, unless they were in the crash with you, they can probably never understand what you have been through.

Maybe you lay awake at night, haunted by the images of a fellow passenger getting her arm broken as the bus crumpled. Maybe you are still struggling to recover from a mild traumatic brain injury (TBI) you sustained when the bus flew off the freeway. In either case, you would love to able to communicate your feelings and needs to family and friends.

Many people know how to express sympathy. But, while sympathy can feel okay, most of us really crave empathy. This is a different kind of support. It involves a more pure act of listening and reflecting. For instance, let's say a TBI-related headache is killing you. Rather than advice or sympathy, you may just want someone to say something like, “Wow, looks like you’re in some serious pain, and you'd love more than anything to make the pain go away.”

Empathy is much harder to practice, but it can be richly rewarding.

Here is something to consider—a way to give empathy to yourself. When you feel in pain or distressed about the bus crash, just acknowledge the reality of the pain. Try to separate the observation from the feelings you are having, and identify the fundamental need that is driving the feelings.

In the meantime, if you need help dealing with the practical aspects of your case, the McComb Witten Vancouver bus crash lawyers would love to talk with you. Please call us at 604-255-9018 to schedule a free consultation. You may also wish to download our free report, The Inside Secrets ICBC Doesn't Want You to Know, for additional practical strategies.